From Victim to Queen: Reclaiming Power After Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse

strengthofaqueen
Aug 5
3 min read

Updated: Aug 10

Why Naming “Victim” Is the Start of Healing

In the healing space, we often hear words like survivor, warrior, thriver. These are beautiful, strong, and valid. But here’s the truth most people avoid:

Before you became a survivor, you were a victim.

You were manipulated. Controlled. Shamed.
You were gaslit into silence, made to feel like it was all in your head.
You experienced emotional abuse, narcissistic tactics, and deep trauma.

Calling it what it was isn’t weakness, It's clarity, and clarity is power.

The Power of Naming What Happened

Let’s be real healing begins with honesty. When we skip over the word “victim,” we risk skipping over the part of your story that holds the most pain and the most potential.

You were a victim.
And you survived.
Now you’re rising.

By saying it out loud, you…

Release self-blame
Break the silence
Honour what you’ve been through
Lay a foundation for transformation

This is how you take your power back, not by skipping chapters, but by facing them head-on.

Understanding the Victim-to-Survivor Journey

Healing from narcissistic abuse or coercive control is not a straight line.It’s a cycle of clarity, grief, boundaries, and growth.

At Strength Of A Queen, we support women in:

Naming the abuse
Rebuilding confidence and self-trust
Setting boundaries without guilt
Navigating co-parenting or no-contact
Learning to love again, from a healed place

Key Topics Survivors Search For (SEO Keywords)

These terms help survivors find the right support, so we use them with care and intention:

Primary Keywords:

emotional abuse recovery
healing after narcissistic abuse
trauma-informed coaching for women
narcissistic relationship survivor
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Long-tail Keywords:

how to rebuild after narcissistic abuse
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These aren’t just SEO tools, they’re searches from women like you, looking for answers, hope, and a way forward.

You Are Not a Label. You Are a Queen Rebuilding.

“Victim” describes what happened to you. It does not define who you are.

You are allowed to own your story without shame.

You’re allowed to say, “I was hurt, and I’m healing.

”You’re allowed to wear your scars like armour, not baggage.

Whether you’re in the early days of leaving, trying to co-parent with a narcissist, or years into your recovery, your journey is valid. You are not alone.